7 things you can learn from the life of Ruth (Part 1).

Good morning lovelies

Today’s write up is the first post to a seven part series on the life of Ruth. I’m sure that there’s a lot more to learn from the young woman but there are 7 major characteristics which stood out to me which I believe we can all learn from and implement into our daily lives.

The first thing to note about Ruth is that she placed God before the hope of being married again! A God whom she did not know so intimately. She chose God over marriage! I know that several women have the dream of wearing a wonderful wedding dress and having the opportunity to celebrate with loved ones, as well as look forward to spending the rest of their life with the one human being they adore most… BUT we must never forget that there is MORE TO LIFE THAN GETTING MARRIED. Please aspire to do more with yourself, do not allow marriage become your one and only life goal.

Ruth 1:12-16 ~ “No, my daughters, return to your parents’ homes, for I am too old to marry again. And even if it were possible, and I were to get married tonight and bear sons, then what? Would you wait for them to grow up and refuse to marry someone else? No, of course not, my daughters! Things are far more bitter for me than for you, because the Lord himself has raised his fist against me.” And again they wept together, and Orpah kissed her mother-in-law good-bye. But Ruth clung tightly to Naomi. “Look,” Naomi said to her, “your sister-in-law has gone back to her people and to her gods. You should do the same.” But Ruth replied, “Don’t ask me to leave you and turn back. Wherever you go, I will go; wherever you live, I will live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God.”

From these verses one can note that Ruth chose to follow a God whom she observed her mother-in-law serve instead of choosing the security of marriage. This tells me a relationship with Christ is worth far more than any marriage!…Ahhhh the name of Jesus is like honey on my lips.

Your ultimate goal and aspiration in life should be to bring glory to God in all you do, and to live a life of complete surrender. Marriage is a beautiful, great, and amazing institution created by God Almighty, but what is of greater/higher importance is having a relationship with God!

There is a deeper level of love in life than that between a man and a woman (husband and wife)! A sacrificial love! David and Johnathan understood this. A love that puts the other first and says ‘I will forgo pleasure and personal gain so that you can prosper and be in the place where God the Father desires for you to be’! This is the love which God has for humanity, and we can see a reflection of this when looking into David and Jonathan’s friendship. Their relationship in a way foretells the Messiah’s (God in flesh appearing’s) love for the world. God the Son left His heavenly throne and took on human flesh, He humbled Himself and died in our place so that we may live forever, through accepting the gift of salvation. Johnathan did not put up a fight in order to gain authority over the kingdom of Israel, which his father so desperately wanted him to rule and control. He was happy to see his friend become King rather than become his father’s successor to the throne. God’s love for us is far superior to the love which David and Johnathan had for one another as close friends.

2 Samuel 1:26 ~ “How I weep for you, my brother Jonathan! Oh, how much I loved you! And your love for me was deep, deeper than the love of women!”

There is no love like the love of God. No man or woman can love you more than God, not even your own mother or father. Desire to do great and mighty things with your life through the power of the Holy Spirit, and remember you already have the greatest love of all. Pray to God to open your eyes to see and know the truth which is you are loved beyond measure. Stop resisting God’s deep affection towards you so that you can truly live a fulfilled life through encountering the power of His unfailing love.

John 15:13 ~ “There is no greater love than to lay down one’s life for one’s friends.”

Isaiah 49:15 ~ “Never! Can a mother forget her nursing child? Can she feel no love for the child she has borne? But even if that were possible, I would not forget you!”

Remember to always put God first in your life. God bless and stay safe people, I look forward to sharing part 2 with you all next week God willing.

Love from

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart

Useful tips for family bonding: (Dealing with conflict Part 2)

Good morning people

Today’s write up is a continuation/follow up on the ‘dealing with conflict’ post. This discussion will focus more so on family bonding, but I believe that many of the principles discussed today can be applied to everyday human interaction, especially intercommunication within the work place.

Is it just me or do we tend to give our best to random strangers or ‘acquaintances’? But within our homes family members tend to get the worst of us? You’ve had a long, tiring, and exhausting day at work, and the littlest thing a loved one does irritates you to the point that you flip out on them. I believe that this scenario is very common within many households. What we must understand is differences are NORMAL, but continuous outburst of anger to the point one becomes aggressive and violent is NOT acceptable behaviour. The bible says it’s ok to be angry but we should not allow our feelings lead us to sin.

Ephesians 4:26 ~ “And “don’t sin by letting anger control you.” Don’t let the sun go down while you are still angry,”

I have a few suggestions to share which I believe can help create an understanding environment within the home. These are personal tips which I regularly try to adhere to, that you can also try putting into practise if you so desire.

Be understanding: Allow room for others faults. Remember you make mistakes too and when you do, you’d appreciate if people expressed forgiveness towards you, especially if you were completely unaware of your wrongdoing. [Colossians 3:13 ~ Make allowance for each other’s faults, and forgive anyone who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others].

Communication is key: TALK IT OUT, please do not undermine the power of speaking out. You mustn’t assume people know your likes and dislikes this includes people in your own home. People change and so do their needs. If you desire for the dishes to be dried and put away in the evenings just say so. If you need help with cooking in this house in order to reduce levels of exhaustion say so! Create a rota of responsibilities so people note what days they’re supposed to do specific chores. If you do not ask for help you will not receive help. No person is a mind reader so if you’re slightly worked up about something say so. I know sometimes people can sense when their loved one is hurt, but sometimes it can be difficult to pinpoint or understand how annoying a particular matter is without the annoyed individual stating so.

Learn to compromise: Hunger can lead to chaos!!! One party doesn’t like to eat dinner late and the other likes to eat their evening meal at 9pm rather than at 5pm. Come to an agreement people, as hunger can turn happy people into angry people very quickly.

Children respect and honour your parents: Raising/caring for another human being is not easy, therefore parents deserve respect. Older children ought to honour their careers too. Older kid’s should also feel comfortable in encouraging their parents to make good healthy choices. You should be able to express your concerns in a healthy and respectful manner. A biblical example of this can be seen when Johnathan has a discussion with his father King Saul. [1 Samuel 19:4-5 ~ The next morning Jonathan spoke with his father about David, saying many good things about him. “The king must not sin against his servant David,” Jonathan said. “He’s never done anything to harm you. He has always helped you in any way he could. Have you forgotten about the time he risked his life to kill the Philistine giant and how the Lord brought a great victory to all Israel as a result? You were certainly happy about it then. Why should you murder an innocent man like David? There is no reason for it at all!”].

Gentle words can help dissipate anger! The phrases below are easy words to say but can be hard to speak out or sincerely express.

Learn to say these liberating phrases.

‘You’re right there’.

‘I’ll take that on board’.

‘I’m sorry that upset you’.

‘I’m sorry’.

Say this instead of this.

‘Next time why don’t you try doing this…’ ✅

‘You SHOULD have done this…’ /‘Why would you do that’ ❌

The way you word your sentences and the tone which you use make a big difference in the way an individual will respond to you.

Remember to think before you speak. I remember complaining about dinner being made late, and not being appreciative enough of the fact that my sister made the effort to make a lovely meal after experiencing a demanding day at work. Respect the work which others do, even if they work from home, work is WORK!

Proverbs 15:1 ~ A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare.

God bless

Love you all

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart 😘

Too close for comfort: Tailgaters you need to STOP.

Good day beautiful people

I hope this post meets you and your family well?? I really felt the urge to share my encounter with you as I must say God REALLY came through for me. He helped calm me down and opened up my eyes to see the bigger picture.

So I was on my way to a night shift on Sunday evening and I realised I was going slightly above the speed limit so I decided to slow down. All of a sudden in my rear view mirror I noticed a small vehicle become increasingly close to my car bumper. This vehicle then decided to drive in the middle of the road to see ahead of my car. My blood began to boil and my heart started beating faster due to frustration. I slowed down even more so due to feeling annoyed/pressured, and because of the fact that I was approaching a zebra crossing. This car then aggressively overtook me, only to slow down less than 200 meters ahead because of a speed camera.

This incident continued to play on my mind for a few hours into my nightshift until I went for my break. It was during my resting period that I came across the passage Proverbs 15:18 whilst studying my one year bible reading plan! This was sooooo appropriate for me to read, it was truly a word in season. I felt the Holy Spirit gently nudge me and remind me that being cool tempered is the better choice, and that I did the right thing by not speeding.

Proverbs 15:18 ~ “A hot-tempered person starts fights; a cool-tempered person stops them.”

The thing is, if I decided to put my foot on the gas peddle in order to prevent the car behind from overtaking, I would actually be doing the dangerous driver a favour. I should not have to do the hard work of changing lanes, whilst putting lives at risk and breaking the law, just so that someone can get to their destination a little quicker. Or because they want to show off in their car. They can do the hard work of overtaking instead of me giving myself heart palpitation because I feel pressured to speed up.

Remember we gotta represent Christ on the roads too, as well as in our work places because we are His ambassador’s! I understand that at times some individuals may not realise that they are driving way too close to the car ahead, but living in the midst of a pandemic does not justify erratic/dangerous driving.

2 Corinthians 5:20 ~ So we are Christ’s ambassadors; God is making his appeal through us. We speak for Christ when we plead, “Come back to God!”

Love you all

God bless beautifuls

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart

Dealing with misunderstandings.

Good day beauts

I hope everyone is feeling refreshed, revived and refilled? I pray that you continually experience the peace of God which surpasses all human understanding, and know that the love which God has for you is unfailing and unending.

Conflict is something which EVERYONE will have to face in life, and one should not be afraid of dealing with disagreements. First and foremost I’d like to express that it is absolutely essential/necessary to deal with problems instead of turning a blind eye to them. This can help prevent negative emotions building up to the point that one explodes into rage. Dealing with problems early on can help prevent situations from going from bad to worse. Addressing situations immediately can also neutralise incorrect assumptions.

Upon reading my one year bible reading plan, it dawned on me the significance of…

1. Not making assumptions.

2. Effectively handling matters which cause you concern.

Getting to know the truth can alleviate feelings of frustration. Take for example you message an individual and get no response for weeks. You finally meet this human being in person and find out that their phone is/was broken, it becomes a relief to know that you weren’t being ignored, but rather your dear friend didn’t receive your message due to phone issues.

Handling potential problems as soon as you become aware of them, can help dissipate wrong assumptions and give one peace of mind. This is better than sweeping things under the carpet.

We have an example of this in the Bible in the book of Joshua. The tribes on the east side of the Jordan river (Rueben, Gad and half the tribe of Manasseh) built a large altar. When the rest of Israel heard about this they assumed the tribes on the east were sinning against the Lord by setting up an altar for idol worship. They saw it to be an act of betrayal and disobedience towards God. Below I will post the chapter and verses which describe this event. It is a long read but I’d encourage you to read all the verses in order to gain clearer understanding.

Joshua 22:10-34 ~ But while they were still in Canaan, and when they came to a place called Geliloth near the Jordan River, the men of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh stopped to build a large and imposing altar. The rest of Israel heard that the people of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh had built an altar at Geliloth at the edge of the land of Canaan, on the west side of the Jordan River. So the whole community of Israel gathered at Shiloh and prepared to go to war against them. First, however, they sent a delegation led by Phinehas son of Eleazar, the priest, to talk with the tribes of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh. In this delegation were ten leaders of Israel, one from each of the ten tribes, and each the head of his family within the clans of Israel. When they arrived in the land of Gilead, they said to the tribes of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh, “The whole community of the Lord demands to know why you are betraying the God of Israel. How could you turn away from the Lord and build an altar for yourselves in rebellion against him? Was our sin at Peor not enough? To this day we are not fully cleansed of it, even after the plague that struck the entire community of the Lord. And yet today you are turning away from following the Lord. If you rebel against the Lord today, he will be angry with all of us tomorrow. “If you need the altar because the land you possess is defiled, then join us in the Lord’s land, where the Tabernacle of the Lord is situated, and share our land with us. But do not rebel against the Lord or against us by building an altar other than the one true altar of the Lord our God. Didn’t divine anger fall on the entire community of Israel when Achan, a member of the clan of Zerah, sinned by stealing the things set apart for the Lord? He was not the only one who died because of his sin.” Then the people of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh answered the heads of the clans of Israel “The Lord, the Mighty One, is God! The Lord, the Mighty One, is God! He knows the truth, and may Israel know it, too! We have not built the altar in treacherous rebellion against the Lord. If we have done so, do not spare our lives this day. If we have built an altar for ourselves to turn away from the Lord or to offer burnt offerings or grain offerings or peace offerings, may the Lord himself punish us. “The truth is, we have built this altar because we fear that in the future your descendants will say to ours, ‘What right do you have to worship the Lord, the God of Israel? The Lord has placed the Jordan River as a barrier between our people and you people of Reuben and Gad. You have no claim to the Lord.’ So your descendants may prevent our descendants from worshiping the Lord. “So we decided to build the altar, not for burnt offerings or sacrifices, but as a memorial. It will remind our descendants and your descendants that we, too, have the right to worship the Lord at his sanctuary with our burnt offerings, sacrifices, and peace offerings. Then your descendants will not be able to say to ours, ‘You have no claim to the Lord.’ “If they say this, our descendants can reply, ‘Look at this copy of the Lord’s altar that our ancestors made. It is not for burnt offerings or sacrifices; it is a reminder of the relationship both of us have with the Lord.’ Far be it from us to rebel against the Lord or turn away from him by building our own altar for burnt offerings, grain offerings, or sacrifices. Only the altar of the Lord our God that stands in front of the Tabernacle may be used for that purpose.”When Phinehas the priest and the leaders of the community the heads of the clans of Israel heard this from the tribes of Reuben, Gad, and the half-tribe of Manasseh, they were satisfied. Phinehas son of Eleazar, the priest, replied to them, “Today we know the Lord is among us because you have not committed this treachery against the Lord as we thought. Instead, you have rescued Israel from being destroyed by the hand of the Lord.” Then Phinehas son of Eleazar, the priest, and the other leaders left the tribes of Reuben and Gad in Gilead and returned to the land of Canaan to tell the Israelites what had happened. And all the Israelites were satisfied and praised God and spoke no more of war against Reuben and Gad. The people of Reuben and Gad named the altar “Witness,”for they said, “It is a witness between us and them that the Lord is our God, too.”

So you can see that the tribes on the west side immediately took action when they heard of a ‘potential problem’. They didn’t spend years in the dark wondering ‘what if’? It is crucial for all individuals to learn how to deal with conflict in a wise manner, instead of running away from dispute. It helps remove the ‘what if’ factor and exposes the truth/facts, and therefore can aid in resolving disagreements. The tribes on the west got it wrong, and sometimes we too can make incorrect assumptions, it’s what you call ‘BEING HUMAN’.

To sum things up we should avoid making assumptions about others at all costs. We should also strive to handle situations with wisdom so we can obtain clarity, instead of turning a blind eye to matters which concern us. This prevents us from living in the dark (believing incorrect information or false news). Trust me when I say that in this era it is very easy for one to be misinformed. When we do not voice out our concerns with the individual who has potentially offended us, there is a high tendency for feelings of bitterness and resentment to rise up within us. This is not how God wants us to live. He desires for us to live in peace and have a true and pure love for one another.

1 Peter 1:22 ~ “You were cleansed from your sins when you obeyed the truth, so now you must show sincere love to each other as brothers and sisters. Love each other deeply with all your heart.”

Anyway God bless people & enjoy your week.

Love from

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart