7 things you can learn from the life of Ruth (Part 7).

Good day beautiful human beings

Today’s post is the final section to our seven part series on the life of Ruth. A massive thumbs up to all those who’ve managed to read through all 7 parts, and also to those who have got through bits and pieces, I hope you’ve ALL been blessed by this Bible study. Today’s topic of focus is the importance of involving others in your marital journey (ESPECIALLY God). All marriages encounter challenges of their own which is why it is important to select the right people to support you in your journey. I believe that in life it’s important to have a good support network around you at all times! The best support you could ever have is God. He also sends people into our lives to help encourage and bless us during our time on earth.

I believe that Ruth was a very wise woman, one reason being because she involved her mother in law Naomi in her journey towards marriage. There is GREAT danger in excluding everyone from your life when you decide to enter into courtship, especially if it is your first experience courting. I say this because sometimes you need the guidance of an outsider in order to avoid getting involved in an abusive relationship. You may see a behaviour as normal due to not knowing any better, but someone else may be able to identify narcissistic behaviour. If someone tries to isolate you from your loved ones and keep you all to themselves please see this as a warning sign/RED FLAG!

Ruth 3:16 “When Ruth went back to her mother-in-law, Naomi asked, “What happened, my daughter?” Ruth told Naomi everything Boaz had done for her,”

Having the right people in your life can also help hold you accountable to your decision to honour God during your courtship phase, and even more so during marriage. Now it’s EXTREMELY essential that you select the right people to hold you accountable. This person could be a qualified counsellor, leader at church, family member, or an older married couple. The choice of an accountability partner is entirely down to both you and your spouse, but just ensure the selected person/persons is trustworthy, and will encourage you both in God’s word, and not gossip about your marital concerns.

Marriage is not simply a union between two people it’s a covenant made before God, so God SHOULD be included in your relationship. Christ should be your marital foundation, and your love for God should draw you and your spouse closer together. A three cord strand is not easily broken, so my greatest piece of advice to you is ‘DO NOT omit God from your relationship’! Don’t shut Him out. He will help you through the good and the bad moments in your life. Also marriage between a man and wife ought to reflect Christ’s love for the church. Christ was willing to lay His life down for the body! Marriage is all about sacrifice, a commitment to sacrificially love one another all the days of your life.

Ecclesiastes 4:12 ~ A person standing alone can be attacked and defeated, but two can stand back-to-back and conquer. Three are even better, for a triple-braided cord is not easily broken.

We can see how much Christ loved the world (the church included) through His death on the cross.

John 3:16 ~ “For this is how God loved the world: He gave his one and only Son, so that everyone who believes in him will not perish but have eternal life.”

Lastly in all your endeavours and decision making involve the Lord. Include Him in EVERY aspect of your life! In ALL of your ways acknowledge Him!

Proverbs 3:6 ~ In all your ways acknowledge Him, And He shall direct your paths.

So be blessed, keep safe, and continue shining your light for Christ!

Love from

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart


7 things you can learn from the life of Ruth (Part 6).

Good day beautiful people

Welcome back to my blog space, I hope you’ve had a blissful and productive couple of days so far. Without further ado we shall delve straight into our penultimate section of our 7 part series on the life of Ruth. The topic of today’s discussion will centre around the importance of being PATIENT.

Dear siblings in Christ, be patient and wait upon the Lord, yes wait upon the Lord to move on your behalf. I just love Psalm 27:14, as I believe the writer of the passage is desperately trying to convey the significance of waiting patiently.

Psalm 27:14 ~ “Wait patiently for the Lord. Be brave and courageous. Yes, wait patiently for the Lord.”

Naomi told Ruth to be patient about things getting serious between her [Ruth] and Boaz. (In other words Ruth was told to be patient about matters revolving around marriage). I believe that when it comes to marriage things should not be rushed, we must set aside time to seek God’s counsel in order to avoid making decisions in haste.

Ruth 3:16-18 ~ “When Ruth went back to her mother-in-law, Naomi asked, “What happened, my daughter?” Ruth told Naomi everything Boaz had done for her, and she added, “He gave me these six scoops of barley and said, ‘Don’t go back to your mother-in-law empty-handed.’” Then Naomi said to her, “Just be patient, my daughter, until we hear what happens. The man won’t rest until he has settled things today.”

Proverbs 19:2 ~ Enthusiasm without knowledge is no good; haste makes mistakes.

Then again I do not intend to express that people should spend decades courting, but what I am trying to communicate is that we should be patient enough to wait on God’s set timings for our lives! And remember during the process of patiently waiting NOT to compare yourself with others, as we all have different timings in life. For example Moses died at the age of 120 after leading the nation of Israel out of Egypt and through the wilderness, and you have Stephen who served tables in the early church who was stoned to death. These were both great men of faith, yet had very different life experiences. In life one sole method of courting doesn’t fit all, but what IS applicable to all is listening to God and communing with Him.

Deuteronomy 34:7 ~ Moses was 120 years old when he died, yet his eyesight was clear, and he was as strong as ever.

Acts 7:57-60 ~ “Then they put their hands over their ears and began shouting. They rushed at him and dragged him out of the city and began to stone him. His accusers took off their coats and laid them at the feet of a young man named Saul. As they stoned him, Stephen prayed, “Lord Jesus, receive my spirit.” He fell to his knees, shouting, “Lord, don’t charge them with this sin!” And with that, he died.”

When it comes to potential marital relationships it’s easy for one to try to speed things up as well as force things to happen. And in doing so forget to ask important questions before the wedding. There are certain questions a person needs to ask BEFORE marriage rather than a few months or years down the line into a marital union. People grow and develop over time so there is no way for an individual to fully know EVERYTHING about another human being, only God knows all things, but one can take certain steps to get know what a potential spouses core values, views, and beliefs are before matrimony.

In a day and age where people want things now and not later I am very grateful for the fact that I serve a loving and patient God who is slow to anger. He is yet to return because He is giving the lost an ample amount of time to turn to Him.

2 Peter 3:9 ~ The Lord isn’t really being slow about his promise, as some people think. No, he is being patient for your sake. He does not want anyone to be destroyed, but wants everyone to repent.

I hope you could take away something from today’s study, stay safe, keep productive, and God bless.

Love and greetings from

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart

7 things you can learn from the life of Ruth (Part 5).

Good day people

Welcome back to my blog space

I hope that you’re keeping well, and are utilising the time which God has given you wisely, whilst learning to totally depend on Him! Sooo as you may or may not know this is part 5 of our 7 part series on the life of Ruth, that’s right we’re drawing closer and closer to the end of this series 😭, I feel like it’s come around so quick. Anyways today’s area of focus is CLEANLINESS yippie!

Now I have to tell you that today’s discussion may be a little controversial, BUT please do hear me out. This may be a sensitive topic for ladies especially but I believe that it is very important for us to openly talk about matters surrounding personal hygiene. This is because we are to look after our bodies as well as our spirit man.

Keeping clean and promoting cleanliness is highly important as it can help reduce the spread of disease and infection. And when reading through the Bible one can see that God instructed the children of Israel on how to uphold good hygiene standards in order to keep themselves healthy. God gave them specific instructions and commandments because He loved them and desired to preserve them. (Adhering to God’s standards at all time’s is extremely essential. This would have been especially so for the Israelites as they spent 40 years in the wilderness, therefore protocols on keeping tidy were needed)!

Deuteronomy 23:12-13 ~ “You must have a designated area outside the camp where you can go to relieve yourself. Each of you must have a spade as part of your equipment. Whenever you relieve yourself, dig a hole with the spade and cover the excrement.”

You can also find out more information on ceremonial laws by reading through Leviticus chapter 11 through to 18.

Upon reading the book of Ruth, Naomi told Ruth to put on some nice clothes and good perfume. Yes ladies AND gents it’s good to look presentable. If you have the means to dress neat and tidy by all means do so. I mean Esther spent months having beauty treatments before being presented to King Xerxes and eventually becoming Queen. It is good to put effort into looking after the body which the Lord has blessed you with.

Ruth 3:3 ~ “Now do as I tell you—take a bath and put on perfume and dress in your nicest clothes. Then go to the threshing floor, but don’t let Boaz see you until he has finished eating and drinking.”

Esther 2:12 ~ “Before each young woman was taken to the king’s bed, she was given the prescribed twelve months of beauty treatments six months with oil of myrrh, followed by six months with special perfumes and ointments.”

I’ll be honest and say that I do not spend any time applying makeup to wear to work, but I do ensure that I take necessary steps to keeping clean such as showering, moisturising, and applying body spray. I do believe that I can care for my health further more as sometimes I find myself violently ripping a comb through my hair because I’m annoyed that my hair isn’t doing what I want it to, and because I’m running late. It’s a journey in which I’m making slow progress, but progress made wether little or a lot, is progress nonetheless. I believe that being organised can also help an individual better care for their overall well-being. So yes as human beings we can be pretty visual, we become attracted to things which appeal to our eyes and grab our attention. There is nothing wrong with enjoying to dress up in a way which HONOURS GOD and expresses your character, BUT outward appearance should NOT be our main focus in life!

Proverbs 31:30 ~ Charm is deceptive, and beauty does not last; but a woman who fears the LORD will be greatly praised.

1 Peter 3:3-4 ~ Don’t be concerned about the outward beauty of fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or beautiful clothes. You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.

We mustn’t forget that the most important part of us which needs cleansing is our souls/hearts. Thank God for Jesus who takes away our sin. We can never be good enough or save ourselves through our works but thank God for Jesus Christ (God in flesh appearing) who was perfectly good on our behalf. We have to allow the Holy Spirit filter our minds of all the junk which may enter through what we watch, or listen to, knowingly or unknowingly. We all need cleansing, we all need God’s forgiveness for all have sinned and fallen short of the Lord’s glorious standards.

Matthew 23: 25-26 ~ “What sorrow awaits you teachers of religious law and you Pharisees. Hypocrites! For you are so careful to clean the outside of the cup and the dish, but inside you are filthy full of greed and self-indulgence! You blind Pharisee! First wash the inside of the cup and the dish, and then the outside will become clean, too.”

John 1:29 ~ “The next day John saw Jesus coming toward him and said, “Look! The Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world!”

Finally whenever you feel low remember the words ‘you are WONDERFULLY made’. You are a unique masterpiece delicately made by the hand of God, so be gentle with yourself. Guard your heart against the lies of Satan that you’re ugly. Believe God’s word which is 100% truth which states you’re WONDERFULLY made. This passage uplifted me at just the right time when I felt frustrated about my severe boil like acne break out, and the hyperpigmentation marks left behind by previous breakouts. But we must remember that there is WAY more to life than what we own, and the clothes which we wear. The thrill of buying a new car doesn’t last forever, it quickly fades and the desire for something new quickly resurfaces. Only Christ can satisfy the human soul, so let us learn to fix our minds on that which is of everlasting value, on things which do not perish. Let growing closer to God and deepening our relationship with Him be our number one goal in life.

Psalms 139:13-14 ~ “You made all the delicate, inner parts of my body and knit me together in my mother’s womb. Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex! Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.”

Good day all and remember you were created with skill. May God’s joy continue to abound within your households


Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart


7 things you can learn from the life of Ruth (Part 4).

Good day beauts

I hope you’re all having an amazing week thus far. Today’s post is part 4 of our 7 segment series on the life of Ruth. The focus of today’s discussion will be on the importance of POSITIONING YOURSELF, so sit back, relax, nourish your soul, and enjoy.

‘Girl you actually need to go out more and socialise, how do you expect to get hitched up?’! I know that hearing this statement can be fairly uncomfortable to digest, as it’s something that I personally struggle with, but there is soommmee truth in it. My mother likes to tell me that I need to go out more in order for my man to be able to locate me, as I shouldn’t expect my husband to find me at home in bed.

It’s all well and good praying to God but we also have to take a step of faith and walk into the opportunities which He brings across our path. The Bible states that faith without works is dead. We should never allow fear hold us back, but we must also remember that we should never try to take the wheel from God. What we should do is surrender our lives to Him and trust that if we walk in obedience, He will cause everything to work together for the good of those who love Him, and are called according to HIS purpose. Interestingly enough one of the definitions of the verb hitched is to ‘move something into a different position with a jerk’, I happen to love this definition as I feel that it helps give further clarity with regards to the current subject of discussion. This is because when we are called to move into a different position (come out of our comfort zone), it can be an extremely scary process which may make us feel like we’re being jerked about. We tend to feel uneasy.

James 2:17 ~ “So you see, faith by itself isn’t enough. Unless it produces good deeds, it is dead and useless.”

To further make today’s post clear, picture an individual who has the desire to become a Radiographer? This individual has to actively apply to universities which offer the course, as well as sit exams prior to entering into higher education. It doesn’t end there as this person will also have to spend 3 years studying, and attending placement before qualifying as a Radiographer. This is an example of faith PLUS works. This individual believed that they could become a Radiographer, AND put in the work by attending placement and sitting exams to gain the qualification. We also have Noah in the Bible, God told Him that there would be a great flood, Noah trusted God’s word and expressed his faith in God through building an ark.

Hebrews 11:7 ~ “It was by faith that Noah built a large boat to save his family from the flood. He obeyed God, who warned him about things that had never happened before. By his faith Noah condemned the rest of the world, and he received the righteousness that comes by faith.”

So position yourself so that you are locatable. For example if you have the skill to bake, bake and present it to others within your local community, friendship group, or family. Don’t be afraid to do so, as the more your practice the more skilled you become. Now we must understand that there is a right way and a wrong way to present yourself before others. Your attitude towards those around you makes a big difference to how they perceive and treat you. As a godly individual you should show kindness towards others, instead of exuding pride or arrogance. You should aspire to speak to others in a gentle and respectful manner, for love is not rude and God calls for us to love our neighbours! Your attitude plays a big role in how you present yourself to others, and will effect your positioning in life.

In relation to forming a marital relationship I am in no way saying that you should perceive every person who happens to be the opposite sex as a potential spouse. But what I do desire to express is the importance of trusting in God, and having an ATTRACTIVE CHARACTER. Such as being pleasant, patient, kind, and hard working etc.

So because Ruth was out there working Boaz was able to NOTICE her. He NOTICED Ruth’s hard working character and got to observe her lovely attributes, which is what made her super attractive. So ladies (myself included) position yourself well, and by this I mean seek to be a virtuous woman who lives well for God. It really pleases the Lord when we do good to others, and He notices when we live in obedience to His word. And guess what not only will God notice your acts of kindness but those who encounter your presence will notice your godly characteristics too. And of course at God’s appointed time your future spouse will become aware of your tender-heartedness 😉. So don’t sit at home wasting time procrastinating over doing what God has called you to do, neither should you sulk or wallow in self-pity because you ‘feel’ you deserve more in life, but be thankful and grateful at all times. A positive attitude is attractive, whereas laziness and rudeness is repulsive. This word also applies to all the men out there too.

Hebrews 13:16~ “And don’t forget to do good and to share with those in need. These are the sacrifices that please God.”

To sum things up Ruth positioned herself in a way that Boaz could NOTICE her, she was in a place where she could be seen. Ruth was seen and noticed because she was outside working hard, not because she was carrying herself in a seductive manner whenever Boaz was around.

Ruth 2:4-7~ “While she was there, Boaz arrived from Bethlehem and greeted the harvesters. “The Lord be with you!” he said. “The Lord bless you!” the harvesters replied. Then Boaz asked his foreman, “Who is that young woman over there? Who does she belong to?” “And the foreman replied, “She is the young woman from Moab who came back with Naomi. She asked me this morning if she could gather grain behind the harvesters. She has been hard at work ever since, except for a few minutes’ rest in the shelter.”

And with everything in life if you have the desire to accomplish a specific task which may need the support or investment of others, don’t be afraid to step out in faith. Don’t be afraid to be noticed for God will bring across your path the right individuals, who will help support you on your journey to fulfilling your purpose. Remember the Bible says the Lord hates pride so be aware of embarking on projects if your only goal is to receive self-glory, for this will not please the Lord! I hope you catch my drift in today’s post. Stay safe, position yourself well, have faith, and don’t let fear hold you back.

Be blessed

God bless

Love from the

Christian Lady After God’s Own Heart