3 Lies the enemy likes to tell single Christian women


Wait For God Single Woman
Wait For God Single Woman

1) You’re single because you are not good enough.

These kinds of thoughts can leave us feeling very low and even condemned. Thoughts along the lines of: ‘you’re not a ‘good Christian’’ or ‘you’re so weak in your faith, no Christian brother can appreciate you.’ Firstly we all go through difficult periods and seasons, and may fall short in our prayer life. The thing you have to realise is the Spirit of the Lord DOES NOT CONDEMN!! The Holy Spirit encourages us. If we are going through areas of dryness in our spiritual life, the Holy Spirit will not leave us feeling weak but rather strengthened with words such as ‘You can do all things through Christ who strengthens you (Philippians 4:13), don’t give up on prayer.’  And to be honest most of the time we can also be so hard on ourselves, and just end up believing the lies and accusations of Satan (Revelations 12:10). Remember Christ came not to condemn the world but to SAVE the world (John 12:47). We just have to exercise patience and wait for Gods timing.

 2) You’re single because you’re a boring person.


Oh man this lie of the enemy REALLY frustrates me KMT! It makes us feel like the God given hobbies and interests we have are worthless (obviously here I am talking of non-sinful practises which bring glory to God). When God created Adam and Eve He found beauty in them, they were good and were made in His likeness. Therefore who is Satan to say that you’re boring because you’d rather stay at home to bake or nap rather than go to a house party? Don’t let Satan rob you of what you are created to do, simply because he wants you to believe that you need to take interest in what you think ‘most guys’ take interest in, just so you have a higher chance in getting married quicker. There’s nothing wrong with not liking the colour pink, or being a girl who plays drums, or not liking your hair long, or not liking to wear skirts. Isn’t it better to feel loved for who you truly are? Remember the devil goes round like a roaring lion looking to kill, STEAL and to destroy (John 10:10). Don’t let him steal your talent. When you argue against Gods will for your life (Ecclesiastes 6:10), by trying to carry out interests you were not created for, you end up living an unfulfilled life.

 3) You’re single because you don’t look good enough.


First of all let us just completely obliterate that lie of the devil with scripture. ‘You are fearfully and wonderfully made in the image of God (Psalm 139:14). So Satan can just stop right there. Ladies I know exactly how hard it is to try to keep up with the so called ‘feminine ideal’ us ladies are supposed to keep up with. I for one do not have the time to apply make up on before I go to work, and frankly I don’t see the need to, especially for my line of work. That’s just how I am, I am not here to force women to not wear make- up, there is absolutely nothing wrong with make-up in itself.  The first thing I do when I get up is pray and read my bible, the next thing lined up on the list of things for me to do, is to shower and EAT (Food over make-up). I can’t lie I do tend to put on mascara for work and apply a lot of lip balm (you know how this dry weather can just affect ones lips lol).

But any who, never feel that you have to change the way you look, or start dressing a certain way before you can get a husband. I mean if you have become more modesty in your dressing because the Spirit has encouraged you to do so, that is a totally different story. Don’t feel pressured to dress a ‘certain way ‘ because you want to please a ‘certain man’. If the guy you are interested in is only concerned with your  outer appearance, there’s a very strong possibility that maybe they are not the one for you. I would never encourage anyone to change their God given physical appearance, because you need to learn to love yourself and see what God sees in you. If you feel low and depressed about how you look, I’d encourage you to pray to your heavenly Father, and also tell another sister in Christ who could also encourage you and join you in prayer.

Finally I would just like you to remember that there is a man who loves you regardless of your annoying habits, strange quirks and how you look and smell when you get up in the morning. He loves you even though He knew that you would turn your back on Him. There is absolutely NOTHING you can do to make Him love you less, isn’t that just so AMAZING. And that man’s name is Jesus and He is GOD!! So I urge you not to worry, but just to wait patiently for His timing. You’re not going to have to have to marry that fresh uncle that’s old enough to be your dad, because you feel he’s the only guy left for you. If God has promised you that He will bless you with a husband He will, because He is not a man that He should lie (Numbers 23:19). He’s preparing your husband for you and He will bless you FAR BEYOND what your mind can imagine (Ephesians 3:20).  It is also very important that you do not idolize marriage, in your time of singleness direct your focus onto the things of God.

Comparison a very nasty habit

stop comparingHey everyone, hope you are doing well and are blessed AND enjoying life.

Have you ever had one of those days where you’re just looking through encouraging Facebook statuses regarding God, and just thinking if you had said exactly the same thing, you would receive A LOT less likes? Or seeing pictures of individuals doing God’s work, with comments of praise from their friends and family. And then you take a glance at your Facebook wall, and see hardly any comments. Just thought Andy Mineo ‘Superhuman’ song expresses the point I’m trying to make here concerning comparison from 2:54-3:02 lol http://youtu.be/7BF88Y4i1Vg, but I’d encourage you to listen to the whole song if you have the time.  Sometimes this can leave you asking yourself ‘What am I doing wrong?’, or leave you with thoughts such as ‘I am less of a ‘good Christian’ when compared to so and so’. Well I am here to tell you DO NOT COMPARE YOUR LIFE WITH OTHERS. Comparing yourself with others can lead you to developing feelings of self-pity, envy, jealousy, bitterness and so many other sinful feelings. Also God loves us all equally so there is nothing you can ever do to make Him love you more or less.

First and foremost I would like to tell you that whatever you do for the kingdom of God will NEVER go unnoticed by God. God see’s your heart and we surely reward you, once you are doing His work with the right heart and with good intentions (desiring to do things for the glory of God and God alone). Also remember that God will always acknowledge those whose hearts are FULLY COMMITTED to Him (2 Corinthians 16:9). So do not feel discouraged or feel that if you are not part of a so called ‘elite’ ministry then your work for God is not valuable. That is a pure lie of the enemy.

God needs people to work in smaller communities and churches. If everyone served at big churches who would be left to serve and minister to those in smaller communities or unreachable areas, and vice versa? As Paul mentions every part of the body is vital, do not look down on the work or responsibility God has given you. If the eyes said to the body I want to be like the legs or said i no longer need the rest of the body anymore, how would the body function (1 Corinthians 12:14-31)? We need to learn to be humble, this is especially essential for cases where God calls one into a different area of ministry. If we feel that we are too big to help churches in poverty stricken countries, or it is not in our nature to help clean or set up at church, there is a SERIOUS problem somewhere. So please please please never look down on your responsibility or someone else’s.

Also when you constantly compare yourself with others, you can end up embarking on journeys which God has not planned for your life. This can lead to multiple unnecessary failures, loss of valuable time and wasting of money. Ecclesiastes 6:10 states ‘Everything has already been decided. It was known long ago what each person would be. So there’s no use arguing with God about your destiny’. You may also notice feelings of lack of satisfaction if you try and go against the pathway which God has set out for you. You may never find joy and contentment as you will not be doing what God created you to do.

Ministry is not about building your own massive empire, but about being available for God to use you as a vessel to win souls. Proverbs 11:30 states that ‘He who wins souls is wise’, so go out there and be fishers of men (this includes all of humanity so women and children included lol). I from experience know that there are many individuals who preach out of envy and jealousy, I mean even Paul speaks of this in Philippians 1:15. Yes the good news is still spread, but with the wrong motives. We all have the same purpose as believers, and that is to win people for Christ through the power of the Holy Spirit. As Paul states ‘The one who plants and the one who waters work together with the same purpose. And both will be rewarded for their own hard work ’ (1 Corinthians 3:8). So avoid turning things into a competition, forget all that ‘my church is more powerful than yours’ and ‘oh I can only feel the Spirit move at so and so church, cos the choir be nailing every note on point.’ Just remember that it is the same Spirit which gives the different gifts to those within the body of Christ (1 Corinthians 12:4).

Well enough of that said, in all honesty I just want every single believer out there to feel encouraged. Keep doing the work God has called you to do, it may not be a smooth journey but keep relying on God almighty. Do not look down on what God has called you to do, because that is what you call being prideful, whether you believe it or not. And finally if you do not know what your purpose in life is…. ASK GOD!!! He is the potter and we are the clay, therefore He knows us best, and would be the best person to ask (Isaiah 64:8).

God bless y’all, you are all SO SO PRECIOUS (remember that).

Godly beauty

Here is just a short list I thought I would write up on, about how we can obtain beauty from within, which will radiate brightly on the outside. Having a beautiful authentic character makes you a beautiful person. The sad thing about today is that society focuses soooo much on appearance it is ridiculous. I mean it is wonderful to look presentable, but there are just the extremes of people feeling so uncomfortable about how they look, that they see it as necessary to go under the knife. Do not get me wrong I have nothing against make-up in itself, as using make-up is a great way of enhancing ones already beautiful features. There is also absolutely nothing wrong with looking after your body and health, as the bible says your body is the temple of the Spirit (1 Corinthians 6:19), I myself do love a hard long work out session at the gym. Also Ecclesiastes 11: 9-10 says ‘Young people it’s wonderful to be young! Enjoy every minute of it. Do everything you want to do take it all in. But remember that you must give an account to God for everything you do. So refuse to worry, and keep your body healthy’. So yeah its good to be healthy, but do not idolize your body, or allow issues concerning image cause you to be drawn away from God, leading you to sin.

wonderfully made

I personally feel that there is so much pressure on women to maintain a flawless appearance, and to never get caught slipping. It makes me so upset that so many young girls and women are deceived into believing that the only way to be noticed by people is to pretty much expose their whole body and wear lots of makeup. This was a lie of the devil I once believed. Well let me tell you curves start to sag, stretch marks start to appear here and there, wrinkles appear, BUT something that never ages is your character. Your character is what you will be remembered for, and how you treated people, NOT your bra size or how big your butt was. Also what happens if so called beauty is taken away from you due to ill health, how would you feel then? There are many people out there who suffer from alopecia or severe skin burns, yet they still stand with great God confidence. This is because they understand that beauty is waaayyyy more than appearance. Cancer may rob you of your hair, but cancer cannot take away your beautiful character.  As Proverbs 31:30 says ‘…Beauty fades. But a woman who has respect for the Lord is to be praised’. Anyway enough of me ranting and onto the list.

  1. For beautiful eyes

Look onto the Lord, do not lose sight of His word, trust in Him, and FIX YOUR EYES ON HIM!!! (Psalm 141:8).

  1. For gentle feet

Walk along the narrow path of righteousness, even though it may not be easy just remember that the gateway to life is narrow and the road is difficult (Matthew 7:14). Don’t deviate a bit to the right or the left, turn your feet away from evil (Proverbs 4:27). One of my favorite verses regarding beautiful feet in particular is Isaiah 52:7 which states, ‘How beautiful upon the mountains are the feet of him who brings good news, who proclaims peace, who brings glad tidings of good thingswho proclaims salvation, who says to Zion, “Your God reigns!” So go ahead and do what God has commissioned us His children to do, let us all spread the gospel.

  1. For tender lips

Ensure that the words which come out of your mouth build people up, and do not bring individuals down. And remember, keep on using those lips to praise our mighty awesome God (Psalm 63:3).

  1. For glowing skin and hair

Don’t place your identity in the colour of your skin, or the type of your hair you have, you are sooooo much more than that, you’re a child of God! (Romans 8:14). Also do not obsess over your hair or skin, do not make them an idol in your life.


  1. For a stunning body

Clothe yourself with God confidence and remember you don’t need to be practically naked to look good. Step away from sexual temptation for your body is the Lords temple (1 Corinthians 6:19). Let your spirit man have dominion over your flesh, and let the Holy Spirit be the guide of your life.


God bless my beautiful ladies

Contentment: A vital characteristic

contentmentI am very sure that we have all had those days were we can spend a bit too long trolling Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or Twitter, I myself have surely had one too many of those days. Before we know it we can end up so caught up in someone else’s life, having a rough idea of what they are going to be doing in the next week, month or even year. You may be wondering why I am saying this, and what this has to do with being content. Well first let us just look at the definition and meaning of the word content. Oxford dictionary defines the word content as ‘Willing to accept something; satisfied’. I honestly love this definition, and believe it helps further bring my point across.

There have been times where I’ve spent a very long time going through several YouTube videos on hair, beauty and make-up. Before I knew it most of the time I could have used to do something productive had vanished. I also remember a time I was with a group of friends, and one friend in particular sat there feeling low, looking at pictures of couples on Instagram. From this we can see that not being content with who you are, and what you have, can rob you of your joy and peace. I for one had to stop and think, and then ask God for forgiveness, as I was making these things I saw on YouTube (beauty products and clothing) an idol. So from there I realised that not being content lead me to commit other sins. When we are not satisfied we end up chasing after things and desiring things which may not be in line with Gods will for us. We should seek ye first the kingdom and His righteousness and all these things will be given to us as well (Matthew 6:33).

Another thing I gathered was that I wasted so much time. Instead of utilising my time to build myself up and develop a Christ like character, I spent that time watching other people’s lives. The final thing that was also a major concern, was I ended up spending a lot of money on a bunch of products, a random person on YouTube said was ‘good’. That’s when I was like HOLD UP some of these YouTuber’s are paid to promote products, and I’m just a student trying to manage my bursary wisely. I had to learn to cut my coat according to its size and learn to be content with the many things I had.

I really do appreciate how social media has provided us with the pathway to connect with others and also spread the word of God to the masses, but so many social media sites are filled with utter rubbish. I realised that so many videos I was watching, and articles I was reading were pretty much all the same, they lacked substance. I mean the videos and posts were not of evil nature, but they all left me empty and unsatisfied. Then it just hit me, only a relationship with God can satisfy me! God also ministered these words to me which were ‘A degree, marriage and children cannot give you complete satisfaction or take the place I am meant to fill in your life’. Please do not get me wrong here, marriage and kids are all gifts from God, and even the bible says ‘It is not good that the man should be alone’ (Genesis 2:18). We are designed for relationship, as after all our faith is based on having a personal relationship with God. Get into the habit of praying to God, to not allow the blessing which He may have waiting for you, to become an idol in your life. Pray for patience.

Onto my next point discipline yourself, learn to have self control as this is one of the fruits of the Spirit (Galatians 5:23). Stop yourself from spending hours and hours looking at things that don’t necessarily build you up. If you find yourself feeling sad or lonely looking at other peoples wedding photos on Instagram, maybe its best that you stop going on Instagram for a while. You should also ask God to remove these feelings of lack of contentment from your life. Do not let social media sites dictate how you should feel or how you should live your life, that is the word of Gods job.

Ever heard the saying that ‘All that glitters is not gold’, well let me just leave you with this question how can you tell if someone is living a great life from a picture? People can put on a smile but be deeply troubled on the inside, we do not know what happens behind closed doors.

Furthermore we do not have a clue of what people go through in life, in order to be where they are today until they share their testimony. Quite commonly it’s the challenging situations which help shape a person, for example death of a loved one. We only end up seeing the end results, and end up saying we wanna have someone else’s life.  But in all honesty could we face going through what they faced?

With that said I just want to encourage you to be yourself, if you are busy trying to be someone else, the world is going to miss out on YOUR talent, ability, testimony and ministry. God created you for a purpose and ONLY YOU can fulfil that purpose and calling God has upon your life, nobody else can do it. Isn’t that just amazing! There will never be another you on planet earth, so work on yourself instead of being someone else. Just remember that the plans which God has for you are of a hope and a future (Jeremiah 29:11). So stop fantasying about being in a relationship, or owning lots of pretty dresses, and possessing the best makeup sets.